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Trust the Universe: A Wedding Tale Nine Years in the Making
A wedding day becomes the ultimate test of fatherly strength when Mark's three-year-old son, serving as best man, demands to be held throughout the entire ceremony. "I'm holding him in the cradle position for what felt like eternity," Mark recounts, "sweating in my suit while trying to focus on my vows and looking like I'm enjoying every second." It's a perfect metaphor for parenthood - finding beauty in challenging moments while creating memories that will last a lifetime.
Set against the picturesque backdrop of Whispering Springs glamping resort, the podcast hosts share an intimate, laugh-filled retelling of Mark and Robin's long-awaited wedding after nine years of engagement. Their seven-year-old daughter stepped in as maid of honor while their son brought charm, chaos, and a handful of sticks to the ceremony. The universe seemed to align perfectly, delivering beautiful weather despite ominous forecasts just days before.
The celebration was made more meaningful by thoughtful tributes to absent loved ones. Pictures honoring Mark's grandmother and Robin's father were placed on ceremony benches, while Robin carried her father's ashes wrapped around her bouquet. "I'm so grateful that we're able to give her the wedding of her dreams," Mark reflects, even if his own experience felt at times like "a rat on fire."
Perhaps the most valuable takeaway comes in Mark's advice for future couples: "You really need to carve out five or ten minutes of just you and your wife time... after you've signed the papers, when guests are at cocktail hour. No photographers, no wedding party, just the two of you." In a day filled with obligations and performances, these stolen moments become the true heart of celebration.
Whether you're planning a wedding, navigating parenthood, or simply trying to balance life's chaos with its beauty, this episode reminds us that imperfection often creates our most treasured stories. As Mark puts it, "Everything in our story has played out perfectly the way it's supposed to."
My son, who was three, was my best man. We practiced. If you don't want to stand next to me, you're going to go see Gigi and Papa, his grandparents.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:So then they walk Robin down the aisle and he's like upy, upy. And I'm like no, no, no, like go with the things. And he's like no, I want to do the rings. So I pick him up and I got him in the cradle, holding this cradle for what felt like an eternity. All I heard was words You're just focusing on your arm.
Speaker 2:Can I hold this kid? I'm focusing on like.
Speaker 1:I was like I need.
Speaker 2:I think I said it at once.
Speaker 1:I was like I need to go to the gym.
Speaker 2:No not that they should incorporate that into strong man competition.
Speaker 1:See how long you can hold a child with one arm and I would love any listener to send us a DM Like how long have you had?
Speaker 4:to hold your kid in a f***ing position before Without adjusting.
Speaker 3:And in a stressful scenario too, and looking like you're enjoying every second of it. If you got some time to relax your mind, come out with us with the Real Dad Podcast.
Speaker 2:Welcome to the Real Dad Podcast. I'm Dave and I like to party.
Speaker 4:I'm Joey and I also like to party.
Speaker 1:And I'm Mark and I also like to party.
Speaker 3:And I'm Brian and I did party this weekend welcome to the show everybody.
Speaker 2:We are uh on the honeymoon right now with uh mark it's true, we have joined him on a beautiful wedding over the weekend.
Speaker 3:I know there's an inside joke there, if you were at the wedding which we did plug the podcast at the wedding.
Speaker 2:So we might have gotten a couple more listeners.
Speaker 1:You never know. There were people at the wedding. I heard people yell from the yeah, reel that book.
Speaker 2:Was that somebody, a plant? It might have just been Howie, it might have just been Howie, I don't know. Was Howie yelling Howie might have been.
Speaker 4:No, Howie doesn't yell.
Speaker 1:No, it came from a different corner, somebody yelled and I was like thank you for your support.
Speaker 2:Yeah, 100%.
Speaker 1:Probably Jeff Ryan, that fucker, he snuck out, he was there.
Speaker 2:Our audience got to listen to some of the preamble of the wedding coming up. So we the wedding coming up, so we thought we would give you a little bit of a rundown on on the wedding before we get into that, though, just because I feel like it's worth talking about. Coming off the back of a sports heavy podcast, yeah, where we talked all about sports was I there, you were there for it.
Speaker 1:Oh my god. Kids and sports, all these things, it was great. It was a great chat.
Speaker 2:I thought it was like playoffs, because no, but then like literally the weekend after that, joey rolls his ankle playing basketball in front of my house with my kids and stuff and then I get a concussion. I took a knee to the back of the head playing baseball and get concussed and knocked out for a second. So it's one of those like the thing that you love to do and that brings you so much peace and joy and love can also tear you down, can I just?
Speaker 1:say something. I'm sorry to hear about both of your injuries, but what I love about our group chat is maybe I don't pay enough attention, but like we talk as if we see each other every day and we don't anymore and then I'm just picking up bits and pieces, right. So like dave was like, oh yeah, I forgot. Like somebody said, I forgot about the concussion.
Speaker 2:I was like trying to roll I don't remember who I had told I was like I'm not the best at texting, but I don't remember concussion I would have shown a lot more concern.
Speaker 1:So I I'm very sorry for my lack of care no, no, no, we're hospitalized you weren't aware. No, there was no hospitalization or anything this time because you almost died running a marathon. You never know what can happen.
Speaker 2:I was there for that, but I just I thought it was interesting that it happened and, joe, like I, I find life interesting from the aspect of like the things that happen before something happens and like the preparation that you don't realize that you're getting for something that's gonna happen to you down the line right because joey and I had been driving and having this like great chat about, like um, I think it like stemming off of some of the podcasts we've had about motivation and being more disciplined and taking care of your body and talking about all those things and how sometimes you just need to get the ball rolling.
Speaker 2:But you get on this good roll and then something happens that just stops it all, and then you're down the dumps for a while and then, like six months later, you're like, oh right, yeah, that's the thing that I need to do. But we were just talking about that and like how, like preparing yourself for those moments and being able to work your way through them, and then boom, joey snapped his ankle, like I don't know, maybe two days after that.
Speaker 1:Sorry, go ahead. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 4:Okay, very good um, I found it interesting from the fact that, like why these conversations are important though, and why what you focus on matters, because I was telling dave that, like in my past, that would have been a very bad weekend after that happened. So it happened rolling my ankle. The wives had just gone away, mine and dave's wife, um, so it was just me solo with the kids for the weekend, and I had literally that day just finished kind of setting up and planning this big thing. On Saturday, we're all a bunch of guys we're going to get together with the kids for like an active Saturday. Now you're peg leg, and I was pumped because I was like all right, we're going to do batting practice and spike ball Like those are two of Joey's favorite things on the planet Like fired up for this.
Speaker 3:Not pirate joey, by the way.
Speaker 4:that's fair, that's fair, yeah um, and then I do this to my ankle on friday night the night before in the past I was just mentioning this today where I was like I would have probably not shown up on the saturday. I would have been like, sorry, boys rolled the ankle it's the perfect reason not to show up, um, and probably just wallowed away for the weekend. You've been like this fucking stupid. Why did this have to happen? But instead, because we had kind of had these conversations on the podcast and had these different conversations in in person.
Speaker 4:I was like, no, what can I do so that I can still be active and I can still give my kids kids an awesome day? Because, like, this was the other reason. It's like we're supposed to get together to go to a new park, hang out with other kids, give them a fun day when they're, when they're home for the weekend with dad. Um, so I'd use chat GPT to like come up with a quick like rehab plan for me to get me back on my feet as quick as possible. Did it work?
Speaker 4:It did, yeah, so I did a lot of thermal therapy with cold plunge, hot plunge, with two different baths. So I did that that night, did it again in the morning, elevating icing. I've had it wrapped pretty much all the time to keep the swelling down and like I played ball last night, like a week after, it was, I think, a pretty bad, bad sprain, but I was able to play ball last night Like I've just been taking care of it.
Speaker 1:Side note, it's very scary. I'm glad you're feeling much better, but it's very scary that our medical professionals are getting through med school with chat GPT right now.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 4:I'm low-key, terrified but also kind of okay with it, like I feel like that a comic did that a while ago for their stand-up to be like you know the reason why your doctor leaves. After you tell them the symptoms, they're just going to google what your symptoms are, so that they can come back you cannot know the encompassing things of the body without an assistant.
Speaker 2:So now.
Speaker 4:Chachi B is just a faster assistant.
Speaker 1:What I was going to say is these two are so in sync together.
Speaker 3:They get injured together. They get injured together.
Speaker 1:And we went through our cards yesterday after the wedding and I'm like there's going to be duplicate. Somebody, somebody's gonna give a duplicate wedding card did you mean to give me the exact same fucking wedding card?
Speaker 2:my wife picked it out my wife picked her shut up for a second you so.
Speaker 1:So we open up joey's card first. First and Joey's wife. Meg scratches out what's in the card and says all that fluff was for people that don't know what they're doing. Then we open up Dave's card and it's like and then the fluff is still in there. She wrote like a little nice message at the bottom and I was, like I can tell which one's from Meg and which one's from Joey, but the only duplicate cards came from these two guys. That is perfect, and I'm like how do they plan this stuff?
Speaker 4:and we honestly don't.
Speaker 1:It just fucking happened, you can't, you, can't, robin took a picture of it and sent it to like the girl group chat or whatever. I'm sure you'll hear about it later.
Speaker 4:I was like blown away. It's just the way it happens sometimes.
Speaker 3:Gotta say I wasn't expecting you to open your cards so soon. Mine's in the mail Just to put it out in the open. I feel really awkward about this right now. I didn't even know.
Speaker 1:I thought you got one.
Speaker 3:Are you telling a joke? No, it's actually in the mail. That's hilarious.
Speaker 2:It's legitimately in the mail.
Speaker 3:I didn't even know, I had no idea.
Speaker 1:I love you, I love you too, but I wouldn't have known at all.
Speaker 3:You could have got away with it Now. I hope it's the same card. There you go.
Speaker 1:You could cancel it, I wouldn't even have known. That's so funny.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 4:It was a great wedding. It was a great party. What a blast, oh man.
Speaker 3:It was. We enjoyed it.
Speaker 1:It's obviously like a different perspective. We kind of talked off air about like my kind of circus, that we had to go through my talk off air.
Speaker 2:What do you mean?
Speaker 1:We didn't allow a commerce inch.
Speaker 3:That would give us a hell of a story.
Speaker 2:Almost two hours cannot be live. It was a long day. It's great, I love that, but without roasting too many people. You, you don't want to record all that.
Speaker 1:No, but you had a bit of a morning getting ready, it's all good it was like you know, two families are coming together and there's you're bound to have hiccups. You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 3:I feel like it needs to be said, though, like do not bother the bride or groom on their wedding day.
Speaker 1:Most of our listeners are like on their third marriage by now.
Speaker 3:Fair enough and it's like an elopement, so it's very unusual.
Speaker 2:That's rule number one people, yeah Well actually, joey said this on the night too, though, Just like how unique and how special it was to have that wedding later in life with an established family absolutely and I loved it so like the past. Two weddings I've been to are my sister, and they already had a kid, and you guys with two, and it's like it was so beautiful getting to see a wedding of a family that is already established and growing kind of.
Speaker 1:That was my question, because I loved it. Everybody that I've talked to has said the same thing uh, I thought you were already married and what'd you do with the kids? Right, and for us it was such a like natural thing. So for the people that weren't there, um, my daughter, who is seven, was my wife's maid of honor and my son, who was three, was my best man. I kind of wish he did the best man speech, sorry but that's all I'm going to say about that.
Speaker 1:Um, but it just felt right, Like it felt natural, it felt like it was like it was felt like it. That was what the plan was, kind of thing. But to everyone that we told they were like, obviously, once they digest it, they're like oh, I love that for you and I love that, that's amazing, but it just it feels like it's like normal thing to do you know, but I am interested to see what the perspective is like from other people, so don't be polite.
Speaker 2:Mark tells us a shit show of his morning getting ready to get to the pictures and all of the things to get to the rehearsal Meanwhile the get to the rehearsal meanwhile. The whole time he's talking I'm thinking about my morning getting ready and it was just like it was just a beautiful breeze of a morning perfect day.
Speaker 3:The weather was like. I was so happy for you. I think that was.
Speaker 1:It was a beautiful day, but like we didn't look at robin and I made a promise not to look at the weather. Oh, good call we're like we're not gonna look at the weather because everything in our story has played out perfectly the way that it's supposed to Right. That this is just going to be whatever happens is part of the of our story and it's the way that it's supposed to happen. And there was like yeah, like the weather was spot on. There wasn't a single bug when we were down in the forest.
Speaker 4:It was crazy, I was I will tell you, I was watching the weather daily, if not hourly, of course, and like literally joey is part-time meteorologist.
Speaker 2:I love the weather. I don't know what it is every day.
Speaker 4:Up until thursday night, it was 15 degrees and raining on the day in in uh grafton. Wow, that was the forecast. And friday morning I woke up I'm like here's hoping things turned around 21 sunny and I was like that's weird and like I kept checking it and it didn't change. And I looked on the radar day of, and weather always moves in this kind of weird like northeast it always comes across ontario, like that. It just stayed flat and that whole system just mucked up new york dude and just stayed down there.
Speaker 1:So it was like the beautiful little it's the universe, man, I'm like, I'll give you your day, I'm telling you, and, and it delivered, that's it it was a beautiful outdoor wedding at this place called whispering springs.
Speaker 2:Um, give them a shout out. It was great establishment, beautiful places. It's a glamping area. So you've got these outdoor tents and I know mark had like kind of sent some pictures and even like we booked our tents earlier. But you don't really know what you're walking into.
Speaker 2:You don't know what it's going to be. And we we go up and you check in and they tell you where to go. We walked into this tent and it was just so beautiful, like we were blown away by just the setup of it and everything. And we were just this was the first time my wife and I had been away in probably like four or five years for a night out without the kids. So it was like wow, like we were just so like blown away by it to then just like get ready in the room and then you got these golf carts that take you to the beautiful area where they're going to be doing the ceremony, with these benches set in the middle of a forest, all decorated, decorated so nicely, the sun kind of filtering in through the trees. You get to meet a bunch of new people from Mark's life that obviously we haven't gotten to interact with Some great friends and just such a beautiful ceremony out there.
Speaker 2:It couldn't have been better from our point of view.
Speaker 3:Yeah, as someone who showed up like basically right as the wedding was starting, I didn't notice anything else going on right like everything looked normal.
Speaker 3:It just looked like mark was, uh, going through like a dad, a bit of a, like a. You had a choice to be a good dad or a bad dad, and you were choosing good dad, like. All it really looked like was that your son was like a little bit nervous and shy and didn't want to be let down. So you didn't, you just like embraced it, yeah, and you could tell like, yeah, you were probably dying a little bit, but like you just played it off so well and it was kind of the only option at that point. It was like either you take him away which you wouldn't have wanted or you just embrace it and it all went so well.
Speaker 2:It was like such a beautiful moment. But, mark, could you paint that picture for us?
Speaker 3:That's what I mean. From my perspective, it was beautiful.
Speaker 2:As a bystander it was a beautiful moment of a dad holding his son getting married, with his wife and daughter there with him.
Speaker 1:For context, we had rented an Airbnb about two minutes away from the facility called the A-Frame. So it's like this beautiful, newly renovated A-Frame facility and the bridal party I don't know what the bride's side of the bridal party. That's where they were getting ready. So we stayed there, robin, my wife, my daughter, my son. We stayed there the night before and then the girls came in super early like the hair and makeup team, and so my son was so afraid of that place and just wanted to go home that he got zero sleep like he was up.
Speaker 1:We did like family lay downs quote-unquote family and I was really. We're all sleeping the same bed yeah and he woke up at midnight.
Speaker 1:He probably didn't go back to bed until like 3, 34 o'clock in the morning and we had to like divide and conquer, yeah, and I got him okay, right, so he's now asleep. We get up at 6, 20 after 6, and he's just ripping and ready for the day. Because it's wedding day, I have to take him and go to my in-laws place and him and I had the best morning like despite you know kind of whatever hiccups we had along the way. They have a hot tub.
Speaker 1:He loves fishing and he loves loves just like being in the water and him and I I never go in the water with him and we were in there just like playing pirates and just it was just him and I having having a day to the point where I was like looking at my watch and time was going so slow that I was like this is going to be the best day ever and that was the only time throughout the day that I really stopped and like embraced the day. It was like me and him like having this cool bonding moment, and so we had practiced like for context, he was the best man, so we had practiced him standing next to me and in front of stuffed animals and, like all he wanted to do was pass me the rings.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So he was going to ask somebody, like hand him the thing, and then he was going to pass me the rings and then when we get there and he starts to see all the people come in, he, he's like, he's an energy reader, right Like he of people's energy and there's so many people there that he, like he, doesn't know what's going on. So we we had practiced walking down the aisle. To be honest, I blacked out.
Speaker 1:I don't even know if he made it down the aisle or whatever, but I just remember him going upy and that's what he says when he wants to get picked up. He's three, so I pick him up and I've got him in the dad cradle. So the dad cradle is my predominant arm and it's like flexed like a tiger's fist pump right, and it's on there and I'm holding on and I'm walking up the aisle and then I'm like okay, I think I'm like I tried to put them down yeah so I put them down and then again we practice.
Speaker 1:If you don't want to stand next to me, you're gonna go see gg and papa, his grandparents, okay? So then they walk, robin down the aisle and thing, and then he starts getting fussy and whiny upy. I'm like I can't pick you up right now, buddy, I got like your mom standing around and she's wearing a white dress, like it's kind of a big deal yeah and he's like upy, upy and I'm like no, no, like, go with the things.
Speaker 1:He's like no, I want to do the rings and like. I'm like there's literally 100 people behind you, I'll just pick you up. So I pick them and I'm having this conversation in my head, right within a split second yeah, so I pick them up. You're weighing your options and I got them in the cradle. Yeah, and I'm holding this cradle for what felt like.
Speaker 2:I mean it wasn't a short amount of time and I'm holding him.
Speaker 1:Just for context, if you've ever been married, I'm in. This is like we're doing the dad awards. I want a fucking award.
Speaker 1:I was thinking good dad the whole time, because when you're on your wedding, there's a side, normally when you hold on to your kids you can like you can switch sides, yeah, but when I'm like usually I go with predominant arm first right, then I got ring finger, which is like my left side is like my weak side, so I kind of like use that as a whatever, and then my go-to, when both arms are like had enough, is my shoulders. Yeah, yeah, so I have him on my like we're gonna call it efficient side right yes, because I'm aware of the photography that's happening being the tv personality that you are no good job, though no good job.
Speaker 1:Anyways, I'm holding on to him, and so like people can like get what they paid for essentially, and I'm I'm now shaking and mother nature gave us such a beautiful day Now. I'm sweating in a suit in a three piece with a, with a, with a, what's it called A?
Speaker 2:vest. I don't even know what it's called, cause I don't wear one.
Speaker 3:So this officiant.
Speaker 1:when we, when we met with him, we're like we want the shortest wedding possible, right, we just want whatever. And I swear to god, all he, all I heard was words I just heard more words.
Speaker 2:You're just focusing on your arm. Can I hold this kid? I'm focusing on like I was, like I need I think I said it at one time I was like I need to go to the like no, no, not that they should incorporate that into strongman competitions you can hold a child with one arm, and I would love any listener to send us a dm like how long have you had to hold your kid in a fucking position?
Speaker 3:without adjusting and in a stressful scenario too, and looking like you're enjoying every second of it.
Speaker 1:So here I am on the best day of my life holding my three year old, who's literally just wants to go fishing he sees a pond right behind us and he wants to go fishing.
Speaker 2:I think it's important to note. The additional strategy to this is that your son had a handful of sticks. Yes, the whole time they weren't empty hands, so you're also avoiding taking a stick to the eye or like knocking somebody else with the sticks that he's holding. It's a delicate procedure else with the sticks that he's holding you one delicate procedure.
Speaker 1:All the new dads. What you're going to learn is you are going to have to figure out a way to get your kids to do things they don't want to do, right, and you're going to agree to some pretty crazy shit that you never expect them to call you out on yeah and this motherfucker takes it the time of my wedding to pull a chit out and be like you told me that we were gonna have an adventure in a forest so when we get down there before the guests get there and we're supposed to be the greeting and stuff.
Speaker 1:He's like I want my adventure now and I'm like no dude. And then he knows that he's like supply and demand situation. He's like motherfucker, I know how important this day is to you. I could have a tantrum right now and fuck this whole bill up for you. You could pay so much money. That is the gamble that you risk when you or play whatever, when you incorporate kids into a wedding, especially young ones my daughter aces fucking oh didn't even know she was 10 perfect.
Speaker 1:Didn't even know she was bored out of her mind. Yeah, wishing she was at a taylor swiss concert.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she couldn't even tell my son holy shit.
Speaker 1:So we're down there. I can see the golf carts shuttling people down. I'm like, where do you want to go? He's like I want to go into that pond over there. I see I see a thing hanging from a tree which was a hammock. Who puts a fucking hammock anyways, real scenario, super true. We bring over and I'm like, let's, what are we looking for? And he's like sticks, the power of a stick, yeah dude I was so happy that I'm like that's what he wanted yeah so I'm like let's do a stick collection, bro.
Speaker 1:Yeah, boom, boom, boom, boom boom. So that's where his handful of sticks- comes from sticks and rocks.
Speaker 3:That's all kids want, that's it.
Speaker 1:So we put him down, just like we practice. I put him beside me and he's fine. So I thought I'm focusing on Robin at the beginning. Everything's fine. Then he's literally on like kneeled down, perfect, like perfect squat, just shoveling other sticks and debris into my shoes.
Speaker 4:That I've rented. Bury you.
Speaker 1:Basically those are rentals no, no, they were rentals, they were fucked. Yeah, um, anyways, he just shoveling stuff. I think you got a video.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was so because I think it was while you guys were doing your vows. So you're standing there doing your vows and it was one of those moments that I wanted to capture, because I think the photographer and videographer were probably happy because he was crouched down so they could get a shot where you didn't even see him. But I'm like that's not what it's about. It's about him being literally in the middle of them as they commit their lives to each other.
Speaker 3:And we told both of them that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but like like you're holding both hands and he's underneath you and it's just like the symbolism, even in that moment of like, yes, you're committing to each other, but you're also have a family and you're committing to that family and I just like zoomed in on this little boy playing with sticks at your feet.
Speaker 3:Who is?
Speaker 2:just happy and content and doesn't even really know what's happening between his mom and dad right now and what they're doing.
Speaker 1:I'm bawling my eyes out over there as I'm doing it, but like I was thankful for the rest because my arm still hurts. This is two days after yep, like feels like I just did a thousand bicep curls and all I did was just hold on to this. 36.
Speaker 2:That's the equivalent monster I think that goes to say then, if you are expecting, then start working that out, you know like when you're in the gym, forget about these, all these fancy exercises just get a heavy bag, yeah, and walk it on your hip.
Speaker 3:Well, no cheating with the hip, though.
Speaker 1:He didn't get the hip, no, he just had all arms the hardest part, like because I'm a sweater, I don't like warm weather, I sweat and I'm holding him, so now I'm doing physical work.
Speaker 2:That's a drip down your back. I'm a skeet skeet mother. Okay, yeah, yeah, way down.
Speaker 1:Whoops.
Speaker 3:So now I'm like You're skipping ahead too far. Sorry, sorry, we haven't done that part yet.
Speaker 1:I'm like vibrating. I'm trying to be aware of where the photographer is and then I switch sides for like half a second. I'm trying to pay attention to, like the repeat after me, but I'm like all I can think about was how sore my arms were, and at one point he's just digging away at your neck.
Speaker 2:He was scratching my neck and what he does when he does it with your hair.
Speaker 1:He pulls the back of my hair and I'm doing all of this and I'm smiling the hardest fake smile I've ever smiled Because I wanted that. I wanted that thing Like I wanted the picture to be there, to be like that story. When people are so cute, I'm like, oh yeah, you son of a bitch.
Speaker 2:This is what was really going on.
Speaker 1:You know what I mean, like when he was older and just kind of thing. I just remember holding him and then, um, our officiant was like it reminds me of a saying, and I was like are you fucking serious?
Speaker 4:do you not see this short fucking wedding but?
Speaker 1:everyone else, like everybody was, just like.
Speaker 1:That was the best like ceremony it was so like it was so to the point, it wasn't jagged out, everything was on the thing, but I was so in my own head and like so much going on that I didn't I didn't appreciate that at all. Yeah, I was so like you know, whatever. And then something happened right after when, like everybody was leaving, something happened and that kind of like my mind was kind of there, but not really there, and robin and I kind of stayed back and, um, you know, we like we had our little moment with the photographer and stuff like that. And the one regret I have and if you haven't been married yet and you and you do, is you really really, really need to carve out five, ten minutes of just you and your wife time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and let it let it be after you've done everything, after you've signed the papers, and the guests are going to their cocktail hour. Throw an intermission in there for the two of you. No photographers, no wedding party no, nothing, it's a great idea. And just fucking vibe like just whatever you got to do. Hold no wedding party. No, nothing, that's a great idea. And just fucking vibe Like just whatever you got to do Hold, have a dance, embrace, have a moment together, just have that fucking Hollywood moment that you will remember. And get that Jim and Pam core memory moment, because all of our core memory moments involve other people and I just kind of wish we had that like moment we have we do have one, but it was the photographers and everybody was still around.
Speaker 1:It was like we did a first look and there was a moment where you're like how are you? Oh, I am amazing, how are you? You look and like I was just so happy to see her and I was embraced. But I'm amazing, how are you, you look and like I was just so happy to see her and I was embraced, but I'm like miked because I'm being videoed and she's like how are?
Speaker 1:things. I was like I'll tell you when this Mike's off of me, yeah, and like yeah that's that would be my biggest thing A little moment away. Steal a moment, steal like something I'm going to do, moving forward is the birth of a, of a new, like whatever.
Speaker 1:Take your moment. If you're on a family vacation, take your moment. That's a great idea. You can just have where it's just, even if it's in a bathroom, lock the doors. It's the two of you and you're like. It's me and you against the world. We're going to, we're going, we're gonna do this right, and this is gonna be everything down.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, that is great advice and anything you do, and I liked what you said where, like everything else, has somebody else in the moment and it's like, yes, you enjoy memories of people and being with people, but that was very much something for you, yeah, but yeah, steal those moments when it is just the two of you and you can take that breath and encapsulate that moment and what it is and then go back into the world and get back out there into all the chaos. Right, I love that breath, breath, breath.
Speaker 1:No, not do that later yeah, take your breath.
Speaker 2:Yeah, great advice.
Speaker 1:You know, get your head above water, but I am. I'm always interested in other people's perspectives.
Speaker 3:So it is kind of interesting because, like you guys crushed the mc thing like it was, that looked flawless it was it was awesome the perfect amount of insults at the right people I was gonna say, the next step in my wedding adventure, which was much different than yours, was the incredible open bar that you had. The options were phenomenal. Thank you, the margaritas were fantastic I could have drank those all night, that's whispering springs again yeah, they had a great open bar. It was awesome.
Speaker 1:I need to publicly thank this dj he was so good d smooth derrick, so good he. So the the backstory there was um my wife literally planned everything yeah, no, you've talked about this on the podcast.
Speaker 2:This was the only thing you had to do was the only thing I had to do so.
Speaker 3:how many times have you emphasized how good the DJ was to Robin?
Speaker 2:Let's get the rest of the story.
Speaker 1:Subconsciously a lot, but how about that DJ?
Speaker 3:He was so good.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying.
Speaker 3:I'm just saying he killed it.
Speaker 1:He was really good so he brought these like light foam things, yeah, which I thought when I saw it I was like that's fucking weird, like that's, that's a weird thing, right it's kind of weird, we're 40.
Speaker 4:little did you know we don't need that.
Speaker 2:That's super weird as a fidgeter I was obsessed with the things, just to have something in your hand.
Speaker 1:I have five but then he also brought this like circle stand selfie thing, so here I am being like oh, the photographers and the, the like, bryson's team brought this thing and and bryson goes, I didn't bring that, and I'm like well, you should, did you bring that yeah? And she's like I didn't bring that, and then derrick is like no, no, that's ours. We bring it to all of our stuff and I was like brilliant I didn't pay you enough.
Speaker 1:Yeah to do this. That thing was so good and it's not awesome. It's not branded, right, there's. None of his stuff is on there, just says mark and robin. He's like this isn't about me, it's about you. What?
Speaker 4:a guy and I'm like he is. I'm assuming I don't want to seem too far, but he looked filipino and I think he's the best people on the planet, so dude.
Speaker 1:So this is this is what I have like a really well-known dj friend like underground dj. Okay, so like, if that's how I gauge people. When people tell me they're a dj, I'm like you like look at their socials. I'm like if, if Rick's following you or if you're following Rick, you're somebody.
Speaker 2:Okay, you passed the vibe check.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So I just Googled like a bunch of things and like try to do a thing, couldn't find it, go on Instagram and I went to Rick's thing. Rick wouldn't. Rick doesn't do DJ or weddings, he probably would if he's listening to this now, but I love you.
Speaker 1:Anyways, I went, anyways, I went through his like following things and I'm like clicking to see and I saw like there's like a collective of them that do these weddings and again, universe shit, for whatever reason. I reach out to this one. I wanted this one right, because I heard one of his like little mixed things. And I reach out to him. He's like yep, I'm open. That day just happened to be open.
Speaker 1:We're in water, water, georgetown, like he's on the other side of the thing. So I usually like pick rings, my cut off like ajax and I'm like damn it, like I'm so sorry. He's like you know what I'll like make the exception, kind of thing. And we get there. He's like the nicest guy. We have our phone calls, whatever, and I'm like can you please play? Like we just tell him the thing, totally trust him. And then the dinner hour thing he made like the coolest playlist of like violin instrumentals on, like pop, like good pop songs and stuff like that. And then Robin and I had to like go like do parent stuff and do the handoff and stuff like that. And we come back and he's playing the worst music I've ever heard and I was like what the fuck is he doing and robin's like. I told you that this was your one job and now I'm like oh my god, I've had a day what have I done?
Speaker 3:I don't remember the worst music ever?
Speaker 2:I don't really remember it either I think it was everybody just kind of had like a chill moment cause you guys still had to go do more pictures. So that's the thing that you kind of like miss out on, cause you're kind of just going off. Right but we've gotten through like the dinner and all the speeches and everything, and then everybody, I think, just kind of like split off into their own little groups to just like take a breath and take a moment.
Speaker 2:yeah, I know like my wife and I went up on a little swing for a little bit, and then the group of us was sitting around a fire and the music was kind of going on, but nobody was really in there dancing, so then we were all like sitting around waiting for you guys to come back because it was one of those like we're taking a breath and then, when we see mark and robin, it's rally time and let's get the party going.
Speaker 1:So, Robin, we're like we have eyes on that the whole entire time that we're doing the thing Gotcha. And Robin's like what the hell, what the hell, what the hell. And she sees somebody and she goes, she pulls them over. Her name is not important, but she's like, when I get back, I need everybody on that fucking dance floor. And then this girl's like yeah, absolutely, I'll make it happen. And I don't know what she did.
Speaker 2:Like what rallying she?
Speaker 1:did. But I come up over this hill and Dave is just fucking given her like going so hard with these these like little foam glow stick things. And he's like at one point I thought you were hitting yourself over the head with it and robin's like. Oh my god, dave's having a time. I'm like he has a concussion right now so she goes.
Speaker 3:What?
Speaker 2:the fuck is he doing and I'm like I don't know, but I hope he's okay I uh, I went to the doctor on wed because this happened. The concussion happened on Sunday. Monday wasn't too bad. Tuesday I did way too much work. Wednesday wasn't feeling too hot, so I'm like, all right, I'll go to the doctor and get checked out. Doctor kind of assesses me. Everything's like functioning properly. They check your eyes to make sure that your eyes are responding and a memory test to make sure I'm not losing short-term memory or anything like that. So I'm doing okay and she's like okay, like it should just be like around one, two weeks for you to recover. Just try not to go to any like concerts this weekend. Like avoid loud music and stuff.
Speaker 2:I was like okay, walk out of there being like I'm seeing a wedding for one of my best friends. Let's see how this goes but, like, similar to joey, with like, taking the recovery process seriously, I, because I knew this was coming, made me focus on my recovery leading up to it, because I didn't want to miss out on it. A lot Like I wanted to be able to be there, which meant canceling a podcast recording with Paul Cronin on the Monday.
Speaker 4:Sorry, Paul.
Speaker 2:And then. But recovering from a concussion sucks like it's literally do nothing. Like you can't look at screens, you can't like you can't overexert yourself because you don't want to like get your blood flow going too much, you're fine.
Speaker 2:But you feel, okay, like I felt super like dizzy and kind of like wobbly, like I felt, uh, motion sickness kind of thing. So I was just trying to do things and take breaks, and do things and take breaks and then, yeah, we get the dance floor and it's like, all right, let's go do this. And I walk into the dance floor and there's all these flashing lights rolling and I'm like, well, this is gonna be interesting. Grab one of them, turn around, let's go people, it's dance time.
Speaker 2:There's a group of people sitting around the fire and I'm like let's go everybody, let's get in there and have a party. And it's a group of old people. I'm like you look like you just sat down, never mind enjoy your moment and just keep walking on to the next one for context, my dad has stage four cancer.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and he was on the dance floor dancing, damn right. And I, this guy, has just had a toe amputated, yeah, wow. And he was on the dance floor with his cane wearing someone's dress over his head.
Speaker 3:I was. I was living for his vibe that night. That was awesome. I got up to him. I was like dad are you okay?
Speaker 1:and?
Speaker 2:he goes, I'm afraid of the big bearded guy who yelled at us earlier and I was like those are my people.
Speaker 1:He's like I'm having a great time. Kid, You're good, and I was like okay, as long as you're safe and you're not being held here against your will.
Speaker 2:Because we hadn't met your dad. So I had never met your dad and we've known the stories of what he's going through from what you've shared with us. And I didn't expect him to be in the area of the music and everything. I thought maybe he'd sit away, maybe leave early, no he was in there like swimwear, having fun Like great. That is a very cool memory that I'm glad that you get to have.
Speaker 1:It was the coolest thing to see, because he's been struggling like the last two years. He's not been good.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And to say that he has been like living for this, like he's been telling us that, like he's like he's like I'm gonna get better. I got a wedding to go to. I got a wedding to. I was like my dad doesn't fucking want to go to this wedding like he just anyways, he it was the coolest core memory for me because it was like my niece. My niece, my oldest group of nieces and nephews. I don't think they remember him before he was sick.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Cause they're in that like 17. They're like at that age where they're starting to become like like you could be your friend kind of. I know it's creepy to say like a 17 year old could be your friend I'm not condoning that at all where they're starting to become like like you could be your friend kind of. I know it's creepy to say like a 17 year old could be your friend. I'm not condoning that at all, but they're they're at the age where they're your family.
Speaker 4:You just can't take it anywhere. Weird, I see what you're saying, you enjoy their company.
Speaker 1:You can have conversations with them Like they're swearing and it's not weird. You know what?
Speaker 3:I'm your cousin, or like real people. Now, yeah, and to see him.
Speaker 1:He wants to be called g pops, for whatever reason, love it, but to see g pops like living his best life in that moment you could tell that they were both just like yo. I'm just here because I want to see like I want him to dance his hat off like this is pretty sweet, you know what?
Speaker 1:I mean. So that was such a cool, cool moment. But, like like back to the DJ a little bit, he queued up every single song and like there was no, like weird. Every time I was like I want to get off to like get a drink or whatever. He'd play another banger and it was just like, oh my God.
Speaker 3:And what I love that he did was like, if it, if it was a song that he could tell right away that people weren't feeling, he switched it immediately, it was yeah.
Speaker 1:It was like not even two words or whatever people like, the energy goes like this, and then all of a sudden, it was like, and it was like a banger that he had like in the queue, like you gotta do, and you were just like you could see the excitement on his face. So like when he's playing a song and it's like you can see, he's like kind of like watching people and he's like smiling, they're into it.
Speaker 2:He's like, all right, all right, all right he's like queuing up his next thing.
Speaker 1:He was so engaged and, yes, so the thing, and, like I, I made this request list not easy for him. Like I was, robin, was like I like r&b and like 90s, early 2000s hip-hop, and there and he was like, what do you like? And I was like ah everything I love I love everything, but I also hate everything. Yeah, so like the wrong country song will really piss me off, but like the right one gets me hype oh, there was a morgan wallen remix.
Speaker 2:It was like a mashup and he made that because he's like what's?
Speaker 1:your favorite. I'm like morgan wallen is my favorite artist right now, but like I love all the and he like thing and I was like I am here for all the mashups so um, the one thing that I will say is we were all on the dance floor and one of the biggest core memories for me is wow.
Speaker 2:That's how you know it was a good party. Your voice is gone. I just got my voice back.
Speaker 3:I'm so sorry. My voice is gone too. I saw it peak on the thing.
Speaker 1:I apologize for that.
Speaker 2:I love that.
Speaker 1:One of my biggest core memories. Much better. Was. We were all on the dance floor and when, like my favorite jam songs came on, the three of you were like my hype men. Like, we're talking like it's not normal to get like excited about like a taking back Sunday. Come on, come on. Mr Brightside comes on, yep, and like Robin's bored out of her mind at her own wedding, but just sitting there laughing at us because we're Singing our hearts out Like belting.
Speaker 2:I'm slapping the ceiling of this thing like hammering it on and then he plays Fall Out Boy like back to back to back.
Speaker 4:I was like oh my, this is I just popped a caffeine pill like this is amazing. Those are all the songs I scream out loud driving alone in my car, so like the fact that you have a group of people doing it, it's like so good everybody I think I had missed some of it because I had called it a night a little early with my head starting to get there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but we go back to our tent and we're across the lake and it just traveled. So the party was just roaring. You can hear like every word everyone singing.
Speaker 1:It was so great so they have like because there's houses on the other side of the hill. They have like a strict like 1130s is the cutoff time, so they pushed it to 12 for us. Oh, okay, and that's why I love the DJ, because he was like this is going to be the last song.
Speaker 2:We're like one more song and normally you can push him and he was like bro, I can't, I can't, I can't.
Speaker 3:He's wrapping his shit up.
Speaker 1:And then, I'm not kidding you, my brother loves creed and he goes he goes, he starts a creed chant in the middle of this dance.
Speaker 1:Keep in mind we're like underneath the pavilion, in the middle of the woods. Okay, there's no, no speakers, and he goes. I'm with my seven, like all of you guys, my 17-year-old nephew my 13-year-old nephew or I don't even know, 11, and my 13-year-old niece. They don't even know who Creed is. No, and even they're like Creed, creed, creed, creed. So then, derek the DJ is like no man. I can't, I can't, I can't and I just go. Can you take me higher?
Speaker 3:Everybody starts singing acapella the song, the song. That's the perfect way to end the day. I was kind of shocked. You didn't sneak Nickel back in there though, Right.
Speaker 1:Robin had a strict no, no. Nickel, that's why, I'm that's why my mate, she was like no, no, oh, what the frig is the name of the band?
Speaker 3:um, no tragically hip, no nickelback and no creed, because the gravenhurst guys just take it and they take it and they run with it and it's too, bad it's too much so what?
Speaker 1:okay? Last thing, the dj goes to me after. I was like he's like, your energy's amazing. All of your friends are like so amazing. This is the best wedding I've ever been to. I'm like you fucking say that to everybody. He goes bro. I've never dj'd a wedding where a fucking mosh pit broke out.
Speaker 3:To the fucking descendants who walk a thousand miles or whatever. Whoever sings that song?
Speaker 1:It's like a full-blown mosh pit broke out and I had to my cousin, married this guy right off the boat of Scott from.
Speaker 3:Scotland.
Speaker 1:You can't understand a word he says he comes up to me and goes I'm gonna butcher it, but he's like I did, but he's a little bit hungry to a mate and I'm like what the fuck did you?
Speaker 2:just say, and he goes, can I?
Speaker 1:and I look at britney. I'm like translate because he wants to request a song, like request anything you want.
Speaker 1:But I don't care, he's not gonna hear you anyway exactly and he found it and he just comes in and starts this thing and I was like okay, and then then he starts dropping the rock songs and I think brian started this little mosh pit. I was all here for it and and danny the scottish guy comes up and tries to push me like three times and he's like I buy your lot bigger than you look he got.
Speaker 1:It good, there he's pushing and he's like trying to go. I don't think I could quite do it. I was like Robin doesn't want to mosh it bro it's over squashing it, man he was pushing for. Creed.
Speaker 4:I saw him in the bathroom when he was pushing for it. I'm watching it, bro.
Speaker 1:It's over. I'm squashing it. Man, he was pushing for Creed too, he was.
Speaker 4:I saw him in the bathroom when he was pushing for it.
Speaker 3:Robin thought she looked like. She thought someone was going to get injured. She was worried about two things.
Speaker 1:Brooke was going to get murdered because her friend Brooke was in the middle of it.
Speaker 4:I know she was trying to stop it from happening, but she just walked in with two drinks in hand and stood in the middle.
Speaker 1:She said she thought it was a dance circle, so she thought it was like a. She said she was like. I thought it was like a dance battle.
Speaker 3:I don't know if it was going to get fucking pummeled.
Speaker 4:She almost died that day.
Speaker 3:That's adorable.
Speaker 1:D Smooth is his name, but I promise you you will never hire a better DJ. That's great If you're looking for one. He's out in the West and he's so good.
Speaker 2:So, all things considered, with all the months or years of lead up to the wedding, the money that you didn't necessarily want to spend I don't know the day and everything, how do you feel?
Speaker 1:I had different Robin and I had different days. So I'm going to say this I don't regret a single thing Because of how Great of a time Robin had Great. There are things, selfishly, as a husband, as a man, that I wish we didn't do, and I'm like I'd be lying if I said like I don't know if I'll ever financially recover from this, but I will. The universe will work itself out. Something's gonna happen. When you land a bigger job, you'll pay it off right, but the, the, the I'm being selfish in saying this the perfection of that day for her.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:I'm okay with all of my hiccups.
Speaker 3:Right yeah.
Speaker 1:But if I'm being totally brutally honest, I didn't have like this magical, beautiful, like moment Right or like wedding day, like I didn't get the hollywood moment that I wanted, but making it not about me and like taking a step back and looking out from like other people's perspectives. Everyone else that was there unless they're lying to my face, not at all no had like the best time, yeah. And for robin, like a she didn't want to plan a wedding. Like for context, we got engaged in 2016, so this is like a nine year thing. Yeah. And robin, I did a very crazy proposal, so I straight up said I'm not planning the wedding whatsoever, like I am not having my hand in this, hence why it took nine years because she just woke up one day and was like I want to have your last name, essentially Right, and so, yeah, I mean I'm a numbers person, I get hung up on that stuff.
Speaker 1:They're going to come and they're going to go, but like I'm a big, big, this whole thing is like change my thing, like spend your money on memories not on things, yeah.
Speaker 1:Right, and the peace and joy and the fact that she she has a bunch of regrets of things that we didn't do while her dad was still alive, right. And then he passed and she's been saying like I wish we would have gotten married when he was alive. Yeah, um, he 100 was the reason why that weather no, it didn't fuck with us that day that broke me during the ceremony.
Speaker 2:There was a person in front of me so I hadn't seen it, and I think it was at some point. Everybody kind of stood up and I saw on one of the front benches that there were pictures and flowers on your side and her side. And I just broke like it was just one of those like sweet moments, but like also knowing how hard it would have been for Robin and even for you to not have your grandmother. I know it's been a while, but it still somebody who is very, very special in your life.
Speaker 1:My grandmother died the day before before her anniversary of her death was June 13th. We got married on June 14th.
Speaker 2:For that reason, yeah it was very special to see that. I thought it was.
Speaker 1:I don't want to keep whatever but like the unit you, you need to just trust that things are going to work out the way that they did. When Robin's dad passed he he got cremated and we all got these little um decorative jewelry pieces with his ashes in them. So one of his big things was he wanted to get his ashes scattered in newfoundland. So when we went to newfoundland after he had passed on a family trip, I donated my ashes so that he could robin could go to his hometown and and scatter his ashes and she said she was going to keep hers just to have them as a keepsake. And when we moved this whole time she couldn't find them. So she couldn't find this necklace that had his ashes in them and we were getting ready to leave on the Friday. There's other stuff I didn't tell you about, like our flowers didn't get delivered.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I got that brief text message.
Speaker 1:So we're waiting around for these flowers to get, uh, delivered to the house the day before we, like when we need to leave. And I'm like, do you have everything? Like, do you have old man's ashes? She's like I can't find them. I've looked in the basement. I found a bunch of other stuff. It's like just triggering, like I just I can't, I'm just he's gonna be there regardless. So it is what it is and I was like let me just go look. She's like I've literally looked everywhere mark. There's like whatever, not even 30 seconds. Go down, move a box, they might be in. Are these? This is them. And she's like I told you right I knew it
Speaker 1:so she had them, and this is kind of like the moment that we had when we, when everybody left, we were, we stayed back with the photographer to like take the photos. Um, she has her dad's ashes wrapped around the bouquet the whole entire time and she's holding them. And then she asked the photographer to come up and like take a picture with, like just her and her dad. And that's when I was like she broke down and I was like I just want to have that moment with her, um, and so, yeah, I I think I'm grateful that we had the wedding that we had and, mainly, I'm so proud and and grateful again that we're able to give her the wedding of her dreams. Yeah, and the the rest of it is like yes. The short answer is yes, I'm good with her sleeping at night, and her version, her perspective of her wedding day was perfect and absolutely it was, and my version was like a fucking rat on fire.
Speaker 3:The good news is, you hired some pretty talented videographers and photographers, and I hope that they've captured it in like, uh, like from our perspective. Yeah, they're not you're not going to see any of that shit. That you know.
Speaker 1:I need the video to post, so I can write it off and then other than that, because it really was a beautiful day.
Speaker 3:Man, I really do appreciate that Cause I was like I was for a lot.
Speaker 1:I was focused on putting out so many fires that I was worried that like people were like just blowing smoke Right, and that's why I wanted to have like the talk with you guys before even this conversation. How'd that feel?
Speaker 2:no, sorry, I got a funny story, okay. I was like did you get?
Speaker 3:concussed, but like we.
Speaker 1:We started this podcast in 2020 yeah so we've been doing it for a long time and we like the it's always kind of been like this running joke that like right, you know, yeah, marriage, and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. So like I feel I apologize for having an episode about, like my wedding to be honest that's what we all came here for tonight but I do like we gave the listeners a good lead up.
Speaker 1:I do feel like a large part of the listeners. I consider them, like you know, extended family if you will and and it is like it's just. It's special to me that I'm able to have this documented version of it so that my kids, when they're older, can come back and listen to it, even if they if they wanted to.
Speaker 4:So they got to learn a few things on the day, but they had a fun time.
Speaker 2:It was a good day.
Speaker 4:Man. Yeah, it was like I had a lot of anxiety leading up to it, just from the emceeing part of it yeah, I'm similar to you, like you've talked about that before.
Speaker 4:We're, like you, getting that kind of I don't know, it happens anytime we have to speak at a home show or anytime I get super anxious. I get anxious leading up because I don't want to, I don't want to be the reason that anything goes wrong. Right, so I showed up, like earlier I was there kind of helping it's funny me and howie and then other brooke. Um, I was helping them like set up tables and stuff, because that's what I do to calm my nerves, like I busy myself and I have to do something, yeah, um. So then that was perfect for me. Like I, I got there early enough, I met with the lady, I got the card and then, like they were setting up the tables and like can I help you guys please?
Speaker 4:And they're like, yeah, for sure, so it's like putting up napkins and stuff, like that's what calms me down and gets me like, okay, you're fine, you're going to do fine, everything's going to be okay, and like I feel like once your feet start, the wedding day just happened right. And like those are the things, those core memories, those are the things that stick with you. We ended up chatting a bit about it afterwards I don't know if you heard us talking, but when we were all just kind of standing out, uh, by the bar at one point and just reflecting back my own wedding, because now that's a million years ago 12 years this year yeah, um, and I'm like the pieces that I remember are just those core memories.
Speaker 4:Everything else is gone. Yeah, like I don't remember any of the speeches, I don't remember any. I don't even remember the ceremony. Like I remember the beginning of it. I remember having a good laugh because dave cried hard enough that he shot snot out of his nose onto his suit and like you, remember those little fun, awesome moments that were your moments, I shouldn't say stupid did we go on like the swing thing?
Speaker 4:we went on the swing thing. There was like a playground beyond the seats with like a yeah, the merry-go-round or whatever it's called. Like the whole wedding party went on that right after we left the wedding. And then just you saying that I remembered meg and I did get to steal a moment and that would like I'll say my photographer was fabulous for that. We're like we had all the family stress pictures and she's like all right, I need you guys now, only you guys. We went off, we went farther away from the wedding. We did our pictures out by fence.
Speaker 4:She's like all right, I'm gonna head back, you guys, just take your time, like now it's just you and like I remember that and like that little moment that we got to have, like, okay, that part's done, like now we just get to walk back, we get to take five minutes and then again, yeah, the reception. I don't remember any of that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like I remember, but then I remember the party and I remember the dancing and I remember like hanging out and just being like, oh, the relief and the joy and the party and the drinks and like, okay, that's what it was all about, right so one thing I will say is my favorite thing about, well, what you have learned from things is I don't like, I don't like social gatherings for no reason, like it gives me anxiety. I don't like to just like hang out. I don't, I'm not good at it. And so we, whenever there's like these big special events or whatever, there's always a pre and a post, and those are my favorite parts, which is weirdly enough.
Speaker 1:It's just hanging out right for a reason but at whispering springs they have a cutoff time where the dj has to be out of there at 12, but you're allowed to carry on and have your own fire and music and whatever after, until whenever you want, okay. So after the dj shut off and the creed chant went down, I had my party crocs on and robin had already gotten dressed. So we start walking back towards our place and we see this fire and I have a friend steve was very destructive, so I was like this is not good let's check on steve oh and there was um.
Speaker 1:Names aren't important, but there was like a great group of people sitting around this fire. Uh, we ordered late night pizza which was delicious, by the way yeah, it's from a place I think it's called the spot. It's called the spot in workworth, ontario. Okay, so check it out. But it was 10 out of 10 pizza and my buddy russ knows me, so he stole two pieces, like two boxes of pizza.
Speaker 1:So for the after we go down and we're sitting around and then russ has a stick and he skewed things, let's be these pizza and he's heating it up over an open flame and like handing it out, and we're just like, I'm mark loose lips, I'm drunk, I'm telling you, like the stories and from the things that are supposed to, about robin and i's relationship when people aren't around, um, but like brown was there, brooke was there, russ was there and steve brooke's husband and robin, and it's just us. We're having a fire till 2 30 in the morning, oh wow, and we're just like and we could have went on way longer, right, and it was just us by the fire, by the water, and we're just all like, I don't know, know, being kids again and there's something magical in those moments.
Speaker 1:That is like I'm so grateful, like I've been to weddings where people are like oh, I'm blackout drunk and like, don't get me wrong, like I was, I was hurting the next day, but I remember literally everything about it. Yeah, and that like the end of the night kind of thing was. It was so I mean, it wasn't. I went back to the room and passed the fuck out, but all right yeah, it was it was really, really cool to like have those.
Speaker 1:Like the beginning and the end of my day were like exactly what I wanted, and it just felt like a plate of spaghetti in the middle of it. Yeah, so I knew that you guys would be honest with me and tell me like, was it as bad as it was? For me or you know whatever, but yeah, anyways, um, whispering springs, can't thank you enough and uh, dj smooth amazing.
Speaker 2:The one thing whispering springs could use, though, on their decks, is a regal ideas railing you need to get some crystal rails in there yeah, they. We had a beautiful deck leading out from our tent and a view of this nice beautiful lake, but we sat down to have breakfast in the morning and the rail was right in the eye view blocking everything.
Speaker 4:Ugly-ass wood rail.
Speaker 2:My wife literally said, they would look really nice with regal ideas right here and I was like yeah, you know, they really would.
Speaker 1:So you know know, maybe a little upgrade on the rails well, while I was there, I came up with an idea we should buy some property. Okay, yeah, and we should.
Speaker 2:I mean, I'm not saying brian sent the ig story though but that's what gave me the thing the retirement place talk outside of here, but I mean, there's money to be made, if you know what I'm saying. See if we can get home hardware on board a little further, say less, say less.
Speaker 3:Did you guys have a deck in front of your tent? Yeah, did it also say maximum six people allowed?
Speaker 2:on your deck. Oh, okay.
Speaker 4:I thought that was a funny sign. Don't want everybody congregating on those little decks.
Speaker 3:Well.
Speaker 1:We went through our cards yesterday after the wedding. Yeah, and I'm like there's going to be duplicate. Somebody's going to give a duplicate wedding card. We get the same fucking card Did you mean to give me the exact same fucking wedding card?
Speaker 2:My wife picked it out. My wife picked ours out, shut up for wife picked hers, shut up for a second you so.
Speaker 1:So we open up joey's card first, and joey's wife meg scratches out what's in the card and says all that fluff was for people that don't know what they're doing and like then we open up dave's cart and it's like and then the fluff is still in there, she wrote like a little like a nice message at the bottom and I was like I can tell which one's from. Meg, which one's?
Speaker 4:from Joy.